अलार्म बजते ही सुबह नींद से कैसे उठे

रात को सोने से पहले आपने सुबह उठने के लिये अलार्म लगाया और गहरी नींद में सो गये. सुबह अलार्म बज उठा... मन और शरीर अभी भी सुबह की मीठी नींद का मजे ले रहा है और यह अलार्म!...हाथ अपने आप बजते अलार्म को बंद कर देते है. आप का उनींदा मन सोच रहा है..उफ्फ क्या मुसीबत है ये अलार्म ....क्या मीठी नींद है... क्या अभी ऊठना जरूरी है?..क्या हो जायेगा अगर 5 मिनिट और आराम कर लू!..अभी तो समय है ...मेने बेकार में इतनी सुबह अलार्म लगा दिया...औ...र. फिर से गहरी नींद...


1 घंटे बाद......हे भगवान ..आज फिर लेट...आप बिस्तर से उछल पडते है और देर से उठने के लिये अपने आप को कोसने लगते है. पेट पर बढती चर्बी, एक्सरर्साइज ना करने का गुस्सा. गुस्सा आ रहा है की क्यों अलार्म के बजते ही बिस्तर से नही उठे. शायद आज बिना नाश्ते के जाना होगा स्टाफ बस तो अब मिलने से रही...टेक्सी से जाना होगा और आफिस में बोस की घूरती आंखों का सामना...उफ्फ क्या जिंदगी है!!....

हर रोज ऐसा ही होता है रोज अलार्म लगाओ...उसके बजने पर ना उठो और फिर देर से उठने के लिये खुद को कोसने लगो. ऐसा क्यों होता है...सुबह अलार्म बजते ही मन ना उठने के बहाने क्यों खोजने लगता है. जेसे वो मन आपका नहीं किसी और का हो!.

आप में अनुशासन की कमी नहीं है, आप में इच्छा शक्ति भी भरपूर है. पर सुबह की मीठी नींद में जेसे अनुशासन धरा का धरा रह जाता है और इच्छाशक्ति हवा हो जाती है. रात जिस उम्मीद के साथ अलार्म लगाते है ...सुबह की मीठी नींद सब उम्मीदों पर पानी फेर देती है. जब तक कोई मुसीबत ना आ जाये तब तक सुबह उठने का मन ही नहीं करता.

ऐसा हम सब के साथ होता है ...मेरे साथ भी यही सब होता था ...पर अब नहीं होता. अब जब में सुबह उठता हू तो कोई आवाज मेरे मन में नहीं उठती. मुझे उठने के लिये चेतन मन की कोई जरूरत नहीं है इसलिये ना कोई चेतन को सवाल ना उससे किसी जबाब का इतिंजार. कोई सवाल-जबाब नहीं. अलार्म बजा और स्वत: ही उठने की प्रक्रिया शुरू हो जाती है वेसे हि जेसे पेव्लोग का कुत्ता अलार्म बजते ही खाने के लिये तैयार हो जाता था.

अब अलार्म बजते ही मेरी आंखे धीरे से खुलती है ..हाथ की उगलिया अलार्म बंद करती है और फिर गहरी सांस लेकर फेफडो में हवा भरता हू...एक भरपूर अगडाई लेता हुआ बिस्तर से उठता हू, दो गिलास पानी पीकर बाथरूम की तरफ बढ जाता हू. सब कुछ जेसे अपने आप होता है जेसे में कोई रोबोट हू. ना कुछ सोचने की जरूरत ना ज्यादा कुछ समझने और समझाने की जरूरत.

बाथरूम में ब्रश करते हुये नींद पूरी तरह भाग चुकी होती है. सुबह की ताजी हवा मे सांस लेते हुए नये दिन का स्वागत करने के लिये मन और शरीर तैयार है...यह सब कैसे संभव हो गया इसे समझने के लिये हमे अपने मन को समझना होगा.

आप ने नोटिस किया कि रात को जब आप अलार्म सेट करते हो और सुबह जब उठने की कोशिश करते हो उन दोनों समय में हमारे दिमाग की सजगता एक सी नहीं होती. रात को दिमाग अलार्म लगाते हुये जितना सजग था, सुबह अलार्म बजते समय उतना ही उनींदा, सुस्त, अक्षम. सुबह उठने का निर्णय आप इस उनींदा, सुस्त, अक्षम चेतन मन से कराने की कोशिश करते हो जो बहुत कुछ उस समय अवचेतन मन के बस में है.

हमे लगता है की हमे और कडे अनुशासन और ज्यादा इच्छा शक्ति की जरूरत है इसलिये हम उतने ही जोरादार तरीके से अपने को कोसने लगते है. पर सुबह नींद मे तो हम अवचेतन मन के बस में है और अवचेतन मन अनुशासन नहीं समझता वो तो आदत का गुलाम है. शरीर को ज्यादा से ज्यादा आराम देने लिये प्रतिबद्ध. उस समय चेतन मन तो उनींदा, सुस्त, अक्षम है, वो कैसे कोई ठीक निर्णय कर सकता है. इच्छा शक्ति और अनुशासन चेतन मन समझता है. अवचेतन पर इसका कोई असर नहीं होता है.

आपको अनुशासन और इच्छा शक्ति की जरूरत तब ज्यादा होती है जब आप पूरे होश में हो. आप सुबह के उनींदा, सुस्त, अक्षम चेतन मन से अनुशासन की उम्मीद कैसे कर सकते है. हम कई बार अलार्म बजते ही उठ जाते है पर उसकी वजह डर या चिंता होती है. शायद यही वजह है की अगर सुबह ट्रेन पकडनी होतो अलार्म बजते ही आप बिस्तर से उछल पडते है. अब अगर सुबह उठने का काम भी डर के साथ करना चाहते हो तो आपकी मर्जी. पर जो काम एक आदत को बनाने से हो सकता है उसके लिये डर को वजह बनाना कहां की अक्लमंदी है.

इसके लिये आप को आदत बनानी होगी बेसे ही जेसे आप ने कार चलाना सीखने के लिये बनाई, याद है पहली बार जब आप ने कार चलाना सीखी तो आप का पैर ब्रेक और एक्सीलेटर खोजता था और हाथ स्टेयरिग और साईड इंडीकेटर नोब के बीच उलझे हुये और आंखे ...फिर कुछ ही हफ्तों से जेसे जादू सा हो गया. सब कुछ जेसे अपने आप होने लगा था. सब स्वत: होने लगा. एसे ही आप को एक ओर नई आदत बनानी होगी....सुबह अलार्म बजते ही उठने की आदत.

कुछ दिन आप को अलार्म के बजते ही उठने की आदत बनानी है, पर यह काम आप को उनींदी सुबह में नहीं करना है. इसे तो पूरे होश और हवास में कुछ दिन दोहराना है. तब तक दोहराना है जब तक की वो आपकी आदत ना बन जाये. एक आदत जो सुबह का अलार्म बजते ही स्व्त: ही उठने की आदत. किसी अनुशासन और इच्छा शक्ति के बिना. बस एक आदत. इसके लिये आपको ड्रामे की रिहर्सल नीचे दिये स्क्रिपट के अनुसार कुछ दिन तक करनी होगी,

अपने बेडरूम में 10 मिनिट बाद का उठने का अलार्म सेट करो. और सोने के लिये जो भी तैयारी करनी हो उसे करो. जेसे अगर सोने के लिये नाईट ड्रेस पहनते हो तो उसे पहन लो. रात को सोने से पहले अगर ब्रश करते हो तो उसे कर लो. सोने से पहले अगर चशमा उतारते हो तो उसे उतार दो. कबंल ओढ्कर एसे लेटो जेसे सच में सो रहे हो. जेसे ही अलार्म बजे तो जागने का अभिनय करते हुये उसे बंद करो. अगडाई लेते हुये फेफडो में सांस भरो और उठ जाओ जा कर एक गिलास पानी पीओ ओर बाथरूम जाओ. यानी की वो सब करो जो सुबह उठते ही करना चाहते हो.

अब इस क्रम को बार बार दोहराओ कम से कम एक दिन में तीन चार बार...कुछ दिनों तक करते रहो.. कुछ दिन में यह आपकी आदत बन जायेगी. इस पूरे ड्रामे को दिमाग में भी दोहरा सकते है पर मेरी राय है की कुछ दिन आप इसे करके देखे उसके बाद आप चाहे तो इसे दिमाग में दोहरा कर भी इसकी प्रेक्टिस कर सकते है.

बस आपको इतना ध्यान रखना है की इस ड्रामे को करते समय चेतन मन में उठने वाले सवालों पर ध्यान नहीं देना है. हो सकता है की आपका चेतन मन आपको बोले की क्या बेवकूफी कर रहे हो....याद रखो यही वो चेतन मन था जिसने पहली बार जब आपने कार चलाना सीखी थी तो कितना डराया था. तब आप ने इस की नहीं सुनी और आप ने अपनी इच्छा शक्ति का इस्तेमाल करते हुये वही किया जो आपके अंतरमन में था तो आज भी आप इसकी नही सुनों आपकी यह सुबह अलार्म बजते ही उठने का ड्रामा करने की आदत को अपनी इच्छा शक्ति का इस्तेमाल करते हुये इसे करो. और उसके जादू भरे परिणाम की प्रतिक्षा करो. विशवास करो आप को कार सीखने में लगे समय से बहुत कम समय इस आदत को सीखने मे लगेगा.

सोचो इस आदत को सीखते ही आपकी जिंदगी कितनी आसान हो जायेगी...कितने रुके हुये और उलझन भरे काम आसानी से आप अब कर पाओगे वो भी बिना किसी अतिरिक्त डर या चिंता के..

जितनी बार आप प्रेक्टिस करेगे वो उतने गहरे में आपके मन मे उतर जायेगा. अलार्म बजा...तो उठना है.... अलार्म बजा...तो उठना है. एक बार यह आपकी आदत बन गई तो फिर उसके बाद सब आसान ...फिर आपके मन में सुबह कोई सवाल जबाब नहीं होगा..अलार्म बजेगा और बिस्तर छोडने की प्रक्रिया स्वत: ही चालू हो जायेगी. यह आसान सा प्रयोग आपको आपके अव चेतन मन के काम करने के तरीके के बारे में आपकी समझ को बढायेगा.

मस्तिक तंरगे(Brain wave)

वैज्ञानिक शोध से पता चला की मस्तिक विद्युत तंरगे पैदा करता है. इन मस्तिक तंरगो का व्यक्ति के मन स्थति के अनुसार एक निश्चित पेटर्न होता है. जिसे माप कर व्यक्ति के दिमाग के क्रिया-कलाप के स्तर का पता लगाया जा सकता है. यह पता लगा है की क्रियाशील दिमाग बीटा विद्युत तंरगे पैदा करता है जिसकी आवृति 15 से 40 चक्र हो सकती है. सक्रिय बातचीत में भी एक व्यक्ति बीटा तरंगों पैदा करेगा इसी तरह एक भाषण, देने वाला या एक शिक्षक क्लास में बच्चों को पढाते समय बीटा तंरेगे पैदा करेगे, वंही झगड़ने वाला उच्च बीटा में होगा.


अगली अवृति श्रेणी की तरंग अल्फा है. जहाँ बीटा उत्तेजना का प्रतिनिधित्व करती है, वही अल्फा गैर उत्तेजित मन का प्रतिनिधित्व करती है. अल्फा मास्तिक तंरगे की आव्रति कम है, पर आयाम में ये बीटा से उच्च हैं. इनकी आवृत्ति 9 से 14 चक्र प्रति सेकंड हो सकती है. एक व्यक्ति जो किसी कार्य को पूरा कर आराम करने के लिए बैठता है उसका दिमाग अल्फा तंरगे उतस्रजित करने लगता है. बगीचे में टहल रहा वयक्ति का दिमाग भी अकसर अल्फा स्थति में होगा

अगली श्रेणी, थीटा मास्तिक तंरगे की आती है, ये भी पहले वाली से अधिक आयाम और धीमी आवृत्ति होती है. थीटा मास्तिक तंरगों की आवृत्ति रेंज आम तौर पर 5 और 8 चक्र है. एक व्यक्ति जो उनींदा सा हो, अक्सर उसका मास्तिक थीटा स्थति में होगा. जेसे एक व्यक्ति अगर हाईवे पर गाडी चला रहा हो, और उसे याद नहीं की पिछले 1-2 मील कैसे गुजर गये तो संभवत: उसका दिमाग थीटा मास्तिक तंरगे में होगा. जो अकसर हाईवे ड्राइविंग की प्रक्रिया की एकरस्ता से प्रेरित हो जाता है. ट्ढी मेडी घुमाव दार उबड खाबड सडके ड्राईवर को सजग बीटा स्थति में रेखेगी वही हाइवे पर अकसर ड्राइवर थीटा मास्तिक तंरगे की स्थति का अनुभव करेगा.

अकसर थीटा मास्तिक अवधियों के दौरान अच्छे विचार आने लगते है. यह स्नान करते हुये या हजामत बनाते या ब्रश करते हुये भी हो सकता है यह एक स्थति है जहां कार्य तो स्वत: हो जाते हैं और मन कही और होता है. थीटा स्थति के दौरान विचार अक्सर मुक्त प्रवाह के होते है और सेंसरशिप या अपराधबोध के बिना होता है. यह आमतौर पर एक बहुत ही सकारात्मक मानसिक स्थिति है.

अंतिम मास्तिक तंरग स्थति डेल्टा है. यहाँ मास्तिक तंरगे सबसे बड़ा आयाम और धीमी आवृत्ति के हैं. वे आम तौर पर 1.5 से 4 चक्र प्रति सेकंड होती है. यह कभी भी शून्य नहीं हो सकती क्योंकी तब इसका मतल्ब मृत मस्तिष्क होगा. लेकिन, गहरी स्वप्न रहित नींद में यह सबसे कम आवृत्ति 2 से 3 चक्र तक जा स्कती है.

जब हम बिस्तर पर नींद से पहले कुछ मिनट के लिए पढ़ते तो मस्तिक तंरगे का लो बीटा में होने की संभावना होती हैं. जब हम पुस्तक नीचे रख आँखें बंद करते है तो अल्फा या थीटा स्थति में हो सकती है. अंत में, जब नींद से भारी पलके हमे मस्तिक को डेल्टा तरंग़ में होने का संकेत देती है. रात भर की नींद में हम कई बार इन चारों स्थति में से गुजरते है इन चारों स्थतियों का एक चक्र करीब 90 मिनिट में पूर्ण होता है इस तरह रात भर की नींद में हम 4 से 6 चक्र पूरा करते है.

संक्षेप में सभी पुरुषों, महिलाओं और बच्चों का मस्तिक इन चार मास्तिक तंरग स्थतियों जो उच्च आयाम, कम आवृत्ति डेल्टा से कम आयाम, उच्च आवृत्ति बीटा की विभिन्न स्थतियों का मिश्रण होता है, से गुजरता है. अनुसंधान में देखा गया की कीसी भी स्थति में यह चार प्रकार कि तंरगे का मिश्रित सवरूप हमारे मस्तिक में बनता रहता है. पर मन स्थति के अनुसार उनमे चारों प्रकार की तंरगो के ताकत अलग अलग हो सकती है. गहरी नींद में बीटा तरंगे अपने सबसे सूक्ष्म स्थति में होती है. वही पूर्ण सजगता में डेल्टा तंरगे बहुत कमजोर होती है. किसी एक प्रकार की मास्तिक तंरग स्थति का प्रबल होना, व्यक्ति की गतिविधि के स्तर के आधार पर हो सकता है, शेष तीन मस्तिष्क तंरगे भी मिश्रत अवस्था में रहेगी पर उनकी स्थति पहली वाली से कमजोर रहेगी. इस तरह इन चारों प्रकार कि तरंगो का आपस में साक्षेप स्थति उस समय मन स्थति तय करेगी.

प्रयोगों से देखा गया की बाहरी कारण इन तंरगों को सीधा प्रभावित करते है. मेरा व्यक्तिगत अनुभव है की इन ब्रेन बेव्स को बिना किसी रासायनिक ड्रग को लिये बिना भी आसानी से बदला जा सकता है. इस तरह इनका उपयोग हम अपने मस्तिक कि कार्य क्षमता को बढाने में कर सकते है. आसानी से किसी भी समय रिलेक्स फोकस और क्रीयेटिव हो सकते है. जरूरत पढने पर गहरी नींद मे जा सकते है या फिर उनींदे दिमाग को चाय या काफी पिये बिना सजग बना सकते है.

हम इन मस्तिक तंरगों को नियंत्रित कर हम मन की विभिन्न स्थ्ति पर काबू पा सकते है. और काफी हद तक उसे मन चाही स्थति में ला जा सकते है. अब जेसे पिछले उदाहरण में हाइवे पर ड्राइव करने की स्थति में मस्तिक में उठती थीटा तंरगे ड्राइवर को आंनद और ताजगी का अनुभव कराती है और वो आरामदायक स्थति का अनुभव करता है. पर ड्राइव करने वाले के लिये यह खतेरे कि स्थति हो सकती है क्योंकी उसके तुरंत बाद मस्तिक डेल्टा स्थति में जाने के लिये तैयार रहता है. जो एक निद्रा की स्थति बनकर अनेक बार एक्सीडेंट का कारण बन जाती है. अब ड्राइवर एसे उपाय कर सकते है जिससे अपने को थीटा स्थति में जाने से रोक सके. अब तक ड्राइवर ठंडे पानी के छींटे आंखो पर मार कर, चाय और सिगरेट पीकर अपने को उस स्थति में जाने से रोकते थे. अब उससे बेहतर उपाय खोज लिये गये है.

एसे बहुत सारे रासायनिक और भौतिक उपाय है जिनसे इन तंरगों को काफी हद तक नियंत्रित किया जा सकता है. चरस और गांजा का सेवन कर अकसर लोग गहरी थीटा स्थति में सपनों की दुनिया में पहुच जाते है. उसी तरह शराब का सेवन उन्हे एल्फा या थीटा स्थति में ले जाता है जहां वो आराम का अनुभव करते है. पर इन ड्र्ग्स के खतरनाक दुष्परिणाम इनके उपयोग को बेहद सिमित कर देते है.

लय और रिदिम पर आधारित विधिया ध्यान और रिलेक्शेश्न के लिये खोजी या विकिसित की गई. जो सदियों से लोग इस्तेमाल कर रहे है. जेसे झूमना, झूलना, ड्रमबीट्स पर नाचना या थिरकना, या फिर बस सुनना, सूफीयाना स्टाइल में गोल गोल घूमना. बेली, कथक. मदिंर या गिरजाघर में बजते घंटे घंटीयां की आवाज. ताली पीटते और गरदन दांये बांये घुमाते हुये ध्यान और आराम का अनुभव करना. शास्त्रीय संगीत भी हमे इसी कारण एक आत्म शांति का अनुभव कराता है.

एक छोटा सा प्रयोग करके देखे. आंखो को बंद करे और शरीर को डीला छोडते हुये गरदन को दांये और बांये अपनी आराम सुविधा के अनुसार जितनी दूर ले जा सकते है ले जाते हुये एक लय में झूमते हुये कुछ देर तक हिलाना शुरू कर दे. आवृति 50 से 80 प्रति मिनिट और उसके बाद महसूस करे कि केसा लगा. पर ध्यान रहे जिन्हे गरदन दर्द रहता हो या फिर अगर ऐसा करने से चक्कर आते हो तो ना करे.

एक और प्रयोग करके देखे. हाथों को दांये बांये पूरा फेलाते हुये आंखे बंद कर तेजी से घूमना शुरू करते हुये कम से कम 10 चक्कर पूरा करे. अब यही आंखे खोल कर करके देखे. कोन सा असान था और क्यों. अच्छा इस बार घूमते हुये आंखे बंद कर किसी आसान से गण्ति के जोड को करके देखे देखे जेसे 79+13+37=?...देखा चक्कर आने लगा ना....यही इसकी खूबी है. आप इस तरह घूमते हुये चाहते हुये भी कुछ सोच नहीं सकते क्योंकी सोचते है आपका संतुलन बिगड जायेगा. इसी सिद्धांत को इस्तेमाल करते हुये एक सूफी फकीर घंटो ऐसा करते हुये गहरे ध्यान में उतर सकता है.

कुछ बोडी मूवमेंट्स की विधियों का ग्राफिक विवरण दिया गया है. ज्यादातर से आप प्रचलित होंगे. ये सब विधियां रिलेक्स, या फिर ध्यान में लिये इस्तेमाल की जाती है. इसमे कुछ को जरूर करके देखे और उसका प्रभाव देखें

बाजार मे न्यूरल बीट और ब्रेन बेव पर आधारित ओडीयो उपल्बध है जिसे उसके प्रकार के अनुसार मस्तिक तंरगों को उत्तेजित करने के लिये किया जाता है जिन्हे सुनकर आसानी से आप रिलेक्स, फोकस, और क्रीयेटिव, या ध्यान का अनुभव कर सकते है. नींद ना आ रही हो तो इसे सुनकर गहरी नींद के लिये मन को तैयार कर सकते है. अगर गहरी नींद और थकान हो रही है और जागना या सजग रहना जरूरी है तो यह आपको सजग और उत्तेजित रखेगी.

रात को बिस्तर पर लेटने से पहले किताब पढ़ना अच्छा लगता था पर इधर कुछ महिनों से एसा करते ही पलके नींद से भारी हो जाती और 2 से 3 पेज भी पढ़ना मेरे लिये असंभव सा हो जाता. जब मेंने सजग रहने में मदद करने वाला ब्रेन बेव पर आधारित ओडीयो अपने आइ पोड से हेड फोन लगाकर सुनते हुये किताब पढना शुरू की तो आशचर्य जनक परिणाम मिले और आसानी से मेंने जब तक चाहा किताब पढता रहा. वो भी बिना किसी थकान और नींद का अनुभव किये. उसके बाद नींद लाने वाला ओडियो लगाया और कब नींद ने आ घेरा मुझे पता ही नहीं चला. आज कल रिलेक्स होने के लिये या फिर सपने देखने के लिये अकसर इसे इस्तेमाल करता हू.

यह शुरू शरू में सुनते समय अरूचिकर और अनचाहे शोर जेसा प्रतीत होंगी आप उस पर ध्यान ना दे और उसे अपना काम करने दे और आप अपना काम करते रहे. अगर आप सहन नहीं कर पा रहे है तो उसका वोल्यूम को कम करके देखें. अच्छा हो उसका वोल्यूम आप कम से कम इतना तो रखे जितना आप अकसर पोप संगीत सुनते समय रखते है. कुछ समय बाद इनसे डीस्टर्ब हुये बिना काम करने की आदत सी बन जायेगी वेसे  ही जेसे  बस की खड, खड भड भड की आवाज आपको गहरी नींद में सुला देती है.. और अगर हजार कोशिश के बाद भी ऐसा ना हो तो साफ है की यह विधि आप के लिये नहीं है. :)
याद रहे इन्हे हेड्फोन लगाकर सुना जाता है. क्योंकी यह न्यूरल बीट्स पर अधारित होते है. दांयॉ और बांई ध्वनी मस्तिक के अदंर पहुचकर कम आवृति की बीट्स बनाती है जो चाही गई मस्तिक तंरगों को उत्पन्न करने मे मदद गार होती है.

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porn addiction

clicking on this article indicate that it has generated interest in you, or you are reading because you are my friend...or may be it is because, Pornography is everywhere and you are trying to prevent it on your computer. May be you have a problem with Pornography. May be you know someone with a problem in porn. Whatever the reason, you cannot deny the word pornography as a very popular topic.

Regardless of any technical definition of internet porn, there is something clearly powerful about internet porn. Something simply anyone can do is just go in Google and type the word "sexy girl" in the search bar and see how many results comes up. This is not just like picking up a magazine at a liquor store or going to an adult store. You cannot see "millions" of these stores just around the corner like they are on the the internet.

So may be, we should just not type in "sexy girl"? Sounds pretty simple right? Don't type in any nasty words and you should be fine isn't?? ok type a simple word "hot" and see. Even then you will see something which you never wanted to appear on your computer screen. Sexual ads displayed all over the internet, television, magazine. Big hording around the street corner displays tempting pictures. The advertisers know just how big sexual advertising is. So as you know, the sex industry can be just to overwhelming for some to handle. Sex sells and it is just plain obvious.

This article is for those who are net addicted for pornography. They get tempted to such a extent that they risk there professional life, they risk there families and friend. They know that whatever they are doing is bad and still indulge. After passing of the euphoria they fills with guilt fear and confusion. They daily come out with a pledge and with a promise not to see porn but then again urge comes and take over all promises which they make to themselves. this cycle goes on repeating, and they see no end to it. some of them accept this as there reality and live with it.. others go on fighting with themselves. Till one day they get caught red handed humiliated by public, by friend, by colleagues and by law of the state. Many of them get trapped in black mailing...which altogether a different problem.

Before going further on this pose these question this to your self and try to get true answer.

Do you think Porn is dangerous to our society?

Is it a addiction ?

Like many compulsive behaviors, porn addiction is secret addiction. Friends, family and colleagues may be very disappointed if they knew about it, one feel empty and worthless. It has nothing to do with real sex!

Feelings of loneliness, boredom, insecurity or just having the opportunity can all result in porn addiction. Porn is a fraud because it promises something it never deliver. One use it to escape reality but it actually worsens the very reality. Pornography addiction can make one feel bad about self, unbalance, waste time and money.

Pornography addiction blunts the senses and stops you appreciating life. the more one view the more he wants to view even more, Pornography addiction has a kind of negative hypnotic effect, grabbing then locking your attention until you 'wake up' from the porn trance feeling exhausted and miserable. One may go for days, weeks or months without using porn and then almost without you knowing it you're back into it again. Pornography addiction can make you feel bad about yourself, unbalance your attitude to sex, damage relationships and waste your time and money.

Do you think porn can be danger to our children? The real threat comes from those who would take advantage of kids who naively reveal personal information about themselves. Rebellious teens are especially at risk, because they may not take parental warnings seriously. The more children who risks themselves to view porn, the more our society takes a risk as a whole to our morals and more importantly our families.

So we know that porn can be a danger to our children and families as well as ourselves of course. now lets see .. is Porn really addictive? How much so? Is it more addictive then drugs??

online porn addiction can be as bad as crack or heroin addiction. Pornography addicts have a more difficult time recovering from their addiction than cocaine addicts, since drug users can get the drug out of their system, but pornographic images stay in the brain forever. Pornography really does, unlike other addictions, biologically cause direct release of the most perfect addictive substance. The brain really does release certain chemicals in sexual arousal. The images can stay in our brain over a substantial period of time.

The costs of sexual addiction can range from emotional and physical health problems to legal, professional, and family disorders. Many sex addicts suffer from broken relationships. They experience severe marital and other relationship problems. Even the partners of sex addicts may develop their own addictions and compulsions, psychosomatic problems, or depression and other emotional difficulties.

Are you caught in a downward spiral of viewing more and more perverse sexual porn? Do you avoid sexual intimacy with your partner in favor of masturbatory porn stimulation? Have you started to "act out" by calling phone sex services or visiting massage parlors? Are you ashamed of your behavior but can't seem to stop? Are you too embarrassed to seek help in a public venue?

That's the reason I am writing about addictions to pornography. This is a huge problem all over world and really needs to be paid attention to like never before. Getting the word out about these addictions and problems in our society is what I intend to do. I am sincerely hopeful this message spreads just as fast as the advertising sex ads, the release of these chemicals sex arousals in our brains and the growing popularity in the subject.

The very first effort is to read this article carefully, and keep eye on the next article releasing shortly. It is on how to over come addiction. Reason for keeping the solution out of this article is to keep the article short, generate curiosity. and to filter out serious intenders with whom to proceed further on remedies n solution.

Remember solution is not one line solution or one night solution. but certainly tips will work on you. Follow the advice without thinking too much on its workability, a little faith from you and then rest will be a history which you will be proud owner. and become a best examples to the others to follow....RIGHT dear!!!

oh! no!! Ii am not going to charge you any fees for that...so dont be scared. I want only one commitment form you that if you benefit form advice then PLEASE SPREAD THIS MESSAGE ACCROSS THE INTERNET USER

next post....

In previous post porn addiction was discussed in detail now lets talk about remedies. As we understand that subconscious mind is the area form where the addiction germinate and soon becomes very big tree. so we need some method for communicating and modifying subconscious impulses and reaction so that we can stop nourishment to this tree. this will result into stopping its further growth and day by day it will get weaker and weaker and one day it will be easy to root out.

Most of the compulsive feeling comes when you are alone. So consciously take first step for not to remain alone to the extent possible.

Guilt and fear makes the addictive behavior stronger because Guilt and fear makes you believe that you are weaker in over coming this problem, it makes the problem look much bigger and complex then it is and you feel weaker and weaker that makes your belief stronger that you can never come out of this addiction. First step towards overcoming this addiction is to stop guilt as you have not done any serious life threatening crime, yes it can be fearful because it is against law of state but it is not against natural law. Make your self understand that this type of behavior is a very normal outcome of the possibilities available with you.

You now understand that you want to modify this behavior because it is killing your time, because your friends and family think it is bad, because it is violating law of state, Because this makes you less productive, because this makes you fearful. Because this makes real sex less pleasurable. Like that it can be 100's of valid reasons because of which you want to over come this addiction. Give a serious thinking and list out all those reasons which you feel are real logical reason as per your belief system. This is important step in overcoming addiction so stop reading further and make this list right now.

Sex addiction is linked with pleasure. Whenever you see something sexy or you think something sexy immediately our brain releases chemical which generate pleasure. Can we train our subconscious not to release pleasure chemical and instead of that it release nothing or releases chemical which generate pain. Yes we can do that by modifying subconscious reactions.

It is always a thought which comes to your mind, and more you think on it more it get stronger and then with a drift of sensual pleasure makes you do what your subconscious desire you to do. As if you are slave to your subconscious mind. These thoughts can be easily terminated when it first comes to your mind by giving no attention to these thoughts. If I mean no attention ...I really mean that not to give any attention...whatever kind it may be... just allow it to pass. Or divert your attention to something else. As soon as you divert or stop giving attention to the thought it gets weak and after few seconds it fades out completely.

It is a very normal process you carry out daily to your selves. This time you do this with sex thoughts. And let us see if it works on you or you really feel too weak on these thoughts.

If you feel too weak don't fight on the thought or pass any judgment just accept this as your reality and do what ever your subconscious compel you to do but repeat some of the thoughts in your mind from the list you just prepared against this addiction. Just repeat these thoughts as mantra in your mind while your body performs the act as per the desire of subconscious. After few session only your conscious will become strong enough to give you enough strength to stop unwanted act.

Make it a habit to repeat these thought from the list 4 to 5 times a day, specially before and after sleep you repeat these thought as mantra because at these moments conscious mind is weak and subconscious easily accept these thoughts.

All the time any act we decide to do before an act is performed we judge the act for pain and pleasure when our judgment is in favor of pleasure we carry out act and if it is against the pleasure we avoid. Such judgment take place all the time without you knows consciously. With time thoughts which you used as mantra will settle down in subconscious and sooner or later it will become part of the judgment. I asked you to stop feeling guilty because in guilt we subconsciously choose pain so that we can give to our selves punishment we deserve.

Desires of such addition are generated from subconscious mind. Subconscious reaction can be modified by seeding new pattern of behavior. but conscious mind is a main barrier for the information to be passed to subconscious. to over rule and bypass conscious mind, self hypnosis is best tool. It helps in passing and setting the new modified behavior information directly to subconscious mind. Below i am giving you sample self hypnosis script. Read script into a recording device like your ipod or mobile. and then listening frequently. It is best way to communicate with your sub conscious mind.

This script do not expect deep hypnosis. We all experience mild hypnosis during day to day work like reading, driving and listening to the music. a very mild hypnosis also will do the magic. specially your own voice make things much easier. dont worry if you make little mistake while recording

it works wonder if you can listen to your recording before sleep and after sleep...yes you can use auto stop function to stop player so that you don't need to wake up to stop recording. headphone are better as it keep your privacy intact. ... while recording script read very, very slowly in your recording device. Pretend that you are tired as you read this exercise and you will react in a relaxed, sleepy manner. Whenever you see these ... (periods in row) that is your signal to pause as you read, to let your body relax or allow thought to settle down / perform action before continuing on. recording is divided in 2 phases...phase 1 produce mild hypnosis where phase 2 is the message to modify subconscious mind reaction.

Script: record this script as it is ....

(phase-1)

Make yourself comfortable... gently allow your eyelids to close... now take a full deep breath and exhale completely all the way to the bottom of your lungs, continue with rhythmic breath ...... deep breath bringing more relaxation and all stress tension and worries are going out as air goes out of lungs, rhythmic breath Letting yourself to relax.... as u fills your lungs with clean, refreshing air, u feel good and u feel more relaxed.. At this moment in time... Nothing matters... you switch off your thoughts... And allow this time for yourself... So that you can unwind completely... And you begin to feel more and more relaxed... Letting go of any worries or problems... That may have been on your mind lately... And there is no need to fight any unwanted negative thoughts... As they will soon drift out of your mind as easily as they came... continue deep breath and focus your attention on your toes ... allow your toes to relax completely.... each toes is loose and heavy.... now let the relaxation flows to the feet..., into your ankle..., your calves..., your knees....feel the heaviness on your knees. Your legs are getting heavier an immovable... feel the sensation of warmth, feel it flowing into the thighs..., into your hips..., into your waist..., flowing up to your belly.... your belly is relaxed....relaxation feeling moves further to your chest.... your breath is easier and deeper...it is now more regular and more relaxed.... let the more relaxed feeling moves to your shoulder.... down to the arms....fore arms and into the hands.... and to the fingers.... the deep relaxation flowing in the neck...it moves up to the face... the chin... the cheeks...are fully relaxed....the micro muscles around eyes are relaxed.... the cool soothing relaxation run all around your face.. whole body in deep relaxation..eye lids heavy n smooth.... the cool relaxation feeling going to your forehead. ...over the top of your head.... and down back of your neck...

... A feeling of calmness and contentment... As you feel every muscle in your chest and abdomen... Become limp and relaxed... And all the muscles in your back are relaxing... all the way down your spine... The muscles loosen and relax... And as you drift down deeper and deeper relaxed... You let this wave of relaxation spread all over ... As you begin your journey into your own inner world... To that unique and special part of you... That only you can go to... You continue to let go... Of any negative thoughts or feelings...

And any sounds around you... Or in the distance... Will fade into the background... The only sound that will matter to you... Will be the sound of my voice... Which will continue to take you deeper and deeper... .. And it doesn't matter where you drift... Where you go... My voice will travel with you at all times... So that you will continue... To respond to me on an unconscious level... Deeper and deeper relaxed... You are in deep relaxation. Whatever you are going to listen will go deep into your subconscious mind

(phase-2)

you started pornography to experience a new way now you have enough experience. you want to move ahead in life and want to experience and learn new things. you understand that Pornography makes you feel bad about yourself, it makes you unbalance, and it is a waste of your time and money. Like many compulsive behaviors, porn addiction is secret addiction. Friends, family and colleagues are very disappointed to know about it, it fills you with feelings of loneliness, boredom, insecurity.

Porn is a fraud because. it escape you from facing reality and it actually worsens the very reality. Pornography addiction blunts your senses and stops you appreciating life. Porn trance exhausts you. Pornography addiction makes you feel bad about yourself, and unbalance your attitude to sex, damage relationships and waste your time and money.....you understand that solving day to day problems are more satisfying then avoiding them. you understand that pornography is taking away from your goal.... it is problem to you and not a solution to the day to day problem.

you have the inner strength to say no to the porn. you get rid of all pornography material immediately as it comes to your notice without fail. like movies , pictures , all electronic images, videos, stories, articles, novels you own ... you destroy or delete them permanently. stay off of the computer if it is a temptation. DO NOT get on the computer if it is a temptation.

Whenever you see porn it will generate headache in you. It will generate bad stinking smell all around you . it generate rough sticky wrinkled touch sensation. It is stinking as shit it smells too bad you can't hold it any more, it is like a bucket full of shit and you are looking at it. A very bad experience. your mind reject and immediately move out of it.. you move past without giving any importance to it as easily as you avoid stinking garbage's.....

you think well... you think fast... you think clear... you think organized...you remain cool and calm but whenever you see any porn picture. you are uneasy and experience tremendous dislike and you immediately get rid of it. Whenever you see porn the picture of stinking shit fills your vision. your nostrils fill with the unbearable stinking smell. you can not bear this smell you immediately move eyes out of porn.

you understand that Porn pictures are just naked body nothing sexy about it. Pictures of naked body don't excite you. You remain in total control of your feeling your emotions your attitude...and your needs... you control them.... They have nothing extra ordinary. As soon as you move away from porn you are in total control of your self...your headache vanishes and you feel refresh...relax and smiling ....

You are exceptional human being... you have strength, power, conviction and confidence to say no to the porn. Pornographic pictures no more attracts you. You have lot of energy n you are alive.... you enjoy life. people likes you and you feel good .... you turn problem into advantage. You are in control of yourself in every way at all times in all situation. You are organized and in control of your thought... your time...your action and your future. Porn no way disturbs or distracts you any

You have enough experienced about porn now you want to go ahead for new experiences. Real World around you is more exciting. you enjoy interacting people around you.......

(phase 1 cont...)

next time you listen to this recording it will go more deep in your subconscious. Now you are filling with joy and happiness you are feeling refresh energetic. ....Whatever thought you were listening have gone deep and settled into your subconscious mind... When I count to five... you will be wide awake...feeling good...One...you're beginning to come back...Two... feel the energy start flowing through your body...Three...moving your fingers and toes... more and more awake...feel the energy running through your body more now...Four... breathe in wakeful energy... that's right... breathe in wakeful energy... clearing your head... balancing your energies... feeling wonderful in every way...Five... open your eyes... fully coming back... fully back... wide awake... that's right...wide awake.

script ends...

you can customized script but remember the phase.... phase-1 is to relax [ where u relax your mind and body and allow your conscious mind to rest so that it don't generate unnecessary arguments. and hence whatever you listen settles deep in u.

you may fall sleep while listening to this recording...... never mind its a good indication. listen to recording at least twice a day..specially before the night sleep. you may notice that in spite of listening to the recording and getting into self hypnosis successfully you may feel urge to view porn. if that's so..then simply go ahead don't stop yourself forcefully..or argue with your self. but surely one thing you can do while viewing porn is repeating central idea of the recording mentally. and i am sure you won't feel that good viewing and doing porn and the day won't be far way when you suddenly react subconsciously that if its so bad then what the hell i am doing with this shit. and that the winning point. and i bet form this point onward you will be a proud owner of modified behavior.

you can repeat mentally phase-2 ideas any time during work hour or while driving ....or simply listen to that recording. phase 1 helps you in giving better result. so due to any reason you are not able to use phase 1..you can straight way use phase 2. like during driving pahse 1 is not allowed. Because driving itself generate mild necessary hypnosis so you can straight way use phase 2 more over you dont have to listen to those word consciously...so you keep on doing your normal work allow these recording to play and let your ear pass this sound directly to your subconscious mind...right

Please give your valuable advice on this issue. we all know that we can not stop sex and pornography on net. But certainly we can come out with the best remedies. please post if you have any in your mind. Any adivce which helps the addicted to come out, without damaging the delicate beliefs and with minimum efforts.

please write to me on the issue how to come out of prono addiction...and what to do for not getting trapped into it.

Easy way to connect to your subconcious and superconcious

I was very bad writer during college days  ..even writing one paragraph could be hell for me. but now u can see I can write. Day by day my writing and quality of content is improving. so whats the magic?

I learnt  connecting to my superbeing. ok let me explain, we  normally do two types of writing , one is writting reports, letters based on facts and data which  involves lot of concious thinking, and second  is to write some thing imaginary something from intuition. like stories, research, poems, ideas or fictions. where we dive deep in our memories. this very act of diving deep is nothing but connecting to our subconcious or super conscious mind which is a store house of infinte possibilities, which is source of unbound knowledge. In this article i will give u tips on how to connect to your sub conscious and super conscious mind, bcoz when we write using subconscious and super conscious we deliver unbelievably extra ordinary results. This technique will also help those who have freezing pen syndrome. I mean a situation, when minds goes blank as soon as one picks pen to write.

There are numerous technique in market. So task is to search the one which is easy for u. which u believe u can do easily. Interestingly one of the technique I developed for young kids and for my email friends who believe that they can't write good..they can't write interesting.
I suggest them to switch off the monitor next time they write on computer. ...relax your mind and think few minutes on topic take deep breath and start non stop writing using keyboard..don’t worry about the typing mistake jus go on typing as fast as one can…don’t give conscious effort to stop. jus type whatever comes to your mind .. go as fast as possible. No logic no conscious thinking jus do it mechanically and write whatever comes to your mind at that moment. dont think whether it is relevant or Irrelevant. U can start with 5 minute session. After 5 min stop relax for a while…n then switch ON monitor n see what u have written …it can b a total  garbage never mind. Give full marks to your self for writing 5 min continuously…u have broken bottle neck. correct the spelling link the thought consciously n make the para.even if is real garbage...now pick up the central idea and start over again dont worry. after few session this garbage will act like manure for new idea-plants.
Remember something is better then nothing. u wont find anything magical during first few session but as u will increase time to 15 min and ideal is 30 min u will observe the magical in u. and yes it was magical to many of my frnds. i insist on key board and computer bcoz it saves paper and more over editing is easy at later stage. but if u feel comfortable with paper and pen then also u can write similar way without stopping and pause…write what ever comes to your mind let it be unconnected absurd ..but don’t stop go on writing till u get 5 min or 15 minutes time u set. purpose of this exercise is to bypass conscious mind.
conscious will try to stop u immediately as soon as u do some spelling mistake or when u come across some random unlinked word...but important is not to stop keep on typing/ writing till u finish your allotted time. believe me with in few exercise session u will find as if some unexpected happened and ideas which never in your memories popped out. it clearly indicates that u were able to bypass conscious mind. whenever it happens it happens effortlessly...like newton under the apple tree..or archemedies in bath tub. and now u on keyboard!
so how will  u know that u were connected to your subconscious or super conscious...simple, ..read the content if u feel that whatever written was never in your conscious mind then it means u were with your super being. By this way u get break through ideas and concept which u can expand it consciously
Why minimum 15 min? right…more then 15 min is always better…:-)
bcoz our body works with 15 min time frame …its like 15 minutes on bed to sleep..15 min on dining table to finish food, 15 min to bath …..many many things we do with 15 min mind frame as if this  timer is set in us. so enjoy happy writing friends!!!

faith beyond believes

On a personal level we can live a fine, high quality life, without the burden of beliefs forcing us to judge. On a societal level these hard bound beliefs are what divide us, segment us, and keep us apart. A society without such beliefs is society rooted firmly in reality, and thus has a much better chance of being harmonious.

Psychologically, such beliefs either bolster or undermine our ego. Some of such believe that we are smart, so we present our self as smart, even to the extent that sometimes we act like a smart ass! Similarly a belief feel us unattractive, so we do all kinds of grossly expensive things – get cosmetic surgery, buy pricey clothes, plaster on the make-up with what we believe to be our inadequate appearance.

As one can see, belief and judgment are more than kissing cousins; they are more like conjoined twins. Our beliefs create  judgments and  judgments create  beliefs. It’s hard to tell where one stops and the other begins.
What if we just did what we could? What if we just did what needed to be done to the best of our ability? What if we just presented the world our authentic self? It’s worth a try.
Judgement separate us from others. Oh, sure, there are some people who believe pretty much the same as we do. we tag them brilliant! Sometimes we even call them friends. But, far and away, most people on this planet hold beliefs quite different than ours. we call them ignorant, misguided, sinful, Republican, or just plain wrong!
On a societal level, beliefs are the things that wars, crime, hatred, inequity, and injustice are made of. It’s capitalism versus socialism, rich versus poor, the saved versus the damned, Jew versus Muslim, democracy versus dictatorship, the Koran versus, the Bible, and the thing is all are merely ideas! None of them have a shred of reality to them. And yet, we fight over them, live and die by them, place them on pedestals like graven idols, and cling to them like a drowning man. The thing is, what they believe is really none of our damn business! As a variation on an old saying goes, “Beliefs are like assholes. Everyone’s got them, and most of them stink!” That includes all beliefs, even mine, even yours.
So what other alternative do we have? Other option is belief without judgement such belief transcends belief to faith. Faith is intuitive, not rational. If there were an Ultimate Reality that we could see, something that our discursive minds could understand and our physically bound senses could grasp, we wouldn’t need belief or faith!
lets have faith in the Universe and in ourselves, in others and in all of creation, both manifest and unmanifest. One universe one sprit. And we are all in this thing called life together. Lets not discriminate or exclude. Lets accepts, support and sustains all.
a belief that a non-cognitive understanding of the energy or Spirit that animates all. surrender our long-cherished opinions, eradicate our most precious ideas, and jettison our most tightly held judgments in order to let the two – the physical world and the Spirit – become one again.
When we totally accept the presentation of physical reality and intuitively understand the spirit that precedes, imbues, and transcends it. Allow change to happens – not through belief but through faith, not through cognition but through intuition, not through competition but through cooperation. we will begin to act from that Oneness, and then, who knows what will happen?...i know it's  a high funda ...atleast make room for other's believes and don't eradicate them bluntly.

learn to let go

Pain is not some thing to welcome. Everybody hates pains but every one of us go thro’ it many times. Pain and pleasure are 2 sides of same coin. It means that more u are running towards pleasure more u are inviting pain…or few pains one face now more pleasure it will brought later…Iknow this logic has no direct relevance to the real world we live. But still knowingly and unknowingly we adopt it. We take pain deliberately with a hope that once it is over it will lead to more joy and pleasure.

Nature developed Pain and pleasure so that we can move away from unfavourable condition to favourable condition. Pains are either physical or emotional. We can overcome physical pain by altering physical world and most of us know how to do it. So it is not a concern for this article. In this article we will deal with emotional pain. Emotional pain is expressed through negative emotion like anger, fear, anxiety, depression, grief or guilt. We all do it in our day to day life. Problem occurs when it take major part of our conscious life to the extent that we start identifying our selves with it.

Emotional pain is generated as response to the judgement. If we can change judgement we can change pain to pleasure. Or if we can stop judging we can simply avoid pain. We always held other’s responsible for the pain, and we try hard correct them, blame them or indulge into endless fight with them. If other one are with in us, in that case we fight with ourselves, we harm ourselves, we punish ourselves.

Some times these pains seems to trigger of it own because of some external stimuli… I agree that in such case immediate reaction is not under your conscious control. Immediate response will be as per the anagram available in your subconscious they are not in direct control of conscious thinking. But once these anagram generate reaction it becomes part of consciousness and keep disturbing us. So later part is always depends on how we tackle it consciously. So most of time its our choice either to cling and get in thought of infinite loop and allow it to go further deep making us depressed or Burst into anger or suffer anxiety. or we can get rid of it by letting go.

Surprisingly we experience these pains, when either we think about past or future. It has no relation with present. Anybody who is physically and mentally at present moment of time never feels such pains. It means emotional pains are holding a thought or a memories. When we are holding on to something that we don't need - we should learn to let go. It sounds simple. So why do we find it so difficult?

Remember that ‘letting go’ is not ‘getting rid of’ or ‘throwing away’. Say I’m holding onto mobile and you say, ‘Let go of it!’, that doesn’t mean ‘throw it out’. I might think that I have to throw it away because I’m attached to it, but that would just be the desire to get rid of it.

We tend to think that getting rid of the object is a way of getting rid of attachment. But if I can contemplate attachment, this grasping of the mobile, I realise that there is no point in getting rid of it - it’s a good mobile; it keeps good in communicating n playing game and is not heavy to carry around. The mobile is not the problem. The problem is grasping the mobile unnecessarily.

So what do I do? Let it go, lay it aside - put it down gently without any kind of aversion. Then I can pick it up again, and lay it aside as and when necessary. Now if u still thinking about mobile and its desire of holding it again, is over riding your mind after placing it aside over the table!. ……if not ..then as far as mobile is concerned its real let go for that moment.

Also, understand Letting go is not Forgo and forget. It is more then that. Letting go is like third party observer. It is like referee of the game..good referee remain emotionally unattached to the players. He allows them to play and prompts at mistake without emotionally involving into it. So make your self ready to learn and use let go with a faith that your life is not to live in depression, fear and anger…and nobody..who so ever has a right to make you feel like that.

When you are feeling depressed and negative, the moment that you refuse to indulge in that feeling is an enlightenment experience. When you see that, you need not sink into the sea of depression and despair and wallow in it. You can actually stop by learning not to give things a second thought.

You have to find this out through practice so that you will know for yourself how to let go of the origin of suffering. You have to contemplate the experience of letting go and really examine and investigate until the insight comes. This does not mean that you are going to let go of desire forever but, at that one moment, you actually have let go and you have done it in full conscious awareness. There is an insight then. This is what we call insight knowledge or profound understanding.

Let us understand cause for the emotional pains, by nature attached to thoughts and words rolling in our mind. . it is either for your enemy or your friend. Either you trying hard to escape from it Or you need it badly. you want to take revenge or you want to teach lesson at any cost. Or you want to clarify your point of arguments. Or you want to pass judgement. They are all source of negative emotion.

Now for example take Judgements. It is the judgement which forces you see some one as enemy or as friend. It is not always possible to change external environment responsible for it. But it is always possible for us to decide how we react to it. How we judge and why we judge. It requires reprogramming of our mind. like you r not alone responsible for all the suffering all over the world. Nor you the only one suffering in this world. With a Understand that we all have power to execute. remember it is execution and not jus worry which brings changes. so if you worry beyond your capabilities then you r miss utilizing your own resources…and it may happen that you r worried for world and your immediate neighbour needs simple help from u. and you r not available for that simple help.

Learn to let go. If you cant let go..no matter how hard you try source of pain will remain in u. letting go is not for others benefit. it is for ourselves. the process looks, tedious and painful, but once it is mastered it is easy and effortless and brings magical benefits …so start learning let go. Believe me anybody can learn it. It is wonder tool in over coming pain. So start practicing, before pain reaches to point of no recovery…it will not happen in a single day but it will happen one day…n that day is not far away.

I agree that contemplation is good and most of the time we start with contemplation and ends up with anxiety. Please Remember, any thought process if it generating emotions then it is not contemplation. Specially watch negative emotions.

Attachment shapes our life from childhood. We form a bond with our parents, and these early relationships have an impact on all future relationships. When these relationships change, or when we experience a loss, we are faced with the difficult process of letting go. We usually don't want to let go. We want to continue the attachment which has given us such fulfilment. We often want to continue the attachment even when it is no longer rational to want it.

You under go pains of anxiety, fear anger and depression or guilt and grief due to these thoughts. , letting go is stopping yourself giving second thought to these words. Letting go is recognising what is disturbing u inside and then immediately put those thought to the halt. Many time letting go is miss understood by running away from responsibility. No it is not. Letting go is not running away ….it is rather stopping mind who is running in infinite loops.

I thought that I knew a lot about this process, but it was different when I had to go through it myself. I remember when I left home and secure shield of parents to remote place first time for the work, when friends abused me. When boss fired me left right n right made me to loose seniority. when I left illusive and tempting world pornography.

Now with personal problems and obsessions, to let go of them is just that much. It is not a matter of analysing and endlessly making more of a problem about them, but of practising that state of leaving things alone, letting go of them. At first, you let go but then you pick them up again because the habit of grasping is so strong. But at least you have the idea. Even when I had that insight into letting go, I let go for a moment but then I started grasping by thinking: ‘I can’t do it, I have so many bad habits!’. It is just a matter of practising letting go. The more you begin to see how to do it, then the more you are able to sustain the state of non-attachment.

There are health benefits to letting go. People who worry a lot and hold on to problems may be more vulnerable to physical problems than people who are able to let go. Anger and hostility have even been associated with heart attack risk. At least two personality types have been connected with an increased risk of heart attack. Type A and Type D personalities, both involve an inability to let go. The type A person is pressured and driven, while the type D person is worried and anxious. By learning to let go of cares, worries, anger, deadline pressure, and similar concerns we may be lengthening our lives. We are certainly making them more enjoyable.

Say your loved one move out of your life because he/ she finds better one. leaving u under shock…u cry, u desperately runs then u burst in to anger and then you’re your self to acute depression. Where as one who left you , your state is hardly matter, in such situation let go and to forgive brings magical results.

Everybody around us talk about benefits of forgiveness. We are told from child hood to forgive. But very few knows how to forgive. More over nobody told us how to know that we have really forgave some one we want. It is simple to notice. Think about the one, u think u have forgiven …check out emotion emerging in u as u think about it. If u really forgive then u wont feel any negative emotion…More on forgiveness in next post…